I feel this is a great lesson in mindfulness. The Buddha advocated that one should establish mindfulness in day-to-day life maintaining as much as possible: a calm awareness of one’s body, feelings, mind, and dhammas. (Sanskrit: dharmas, is derived from the root ‘dham,’ meaning ‘to uphold’ or ‘to support,’ the practitioner of Dharma and prevent him or her from falling into a woeful existence). Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you’re mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience.
Yesterday my mom arrived. I showed her my head and she got teary. I said it was fine and that I feel good about it now. Then she cried. My first thought was: ‘Oh great… I really don’t feel like getting upset about this anymore.’ As I said in my first post, I’m over feeling sad about alopecia. It’s a loss, but other than an autoimmune disorder, I’m healthy and I am taking all the necessary steps to treat my body’s imbalance. But I get it. I’ve had time to dwell and come to terms with it, and it’s been over a week since my fiance shaved my head, whereas it was probably so shocking for my mom to take it in all at once. Of course she has seen the spots, and we’ve been talking about it all along, but I think seeing your daughter go through something like this is very emotional and I didn’t realize how hard it has been on her. My daughter just turned seven weeks and I’m sure I’d be reacting the same way, it has been an emotional year. My friend commented: ‘I think it’s ok to be sad about it and for others to share your sadness, I think it would be disingenuous if no one stated the obvious. However, we live this life to experience as much as we are capable of, and what’s not to love about a little adventure in our lives? The Year I Shaved My Hair Off and Survived. Sounds pretty different to me and different always leads to greatness!’ (Thank you Ms.Dana!)